New Years is the epitome of transition. There isn’t one among us who hasn’t, at one point or another, used the turning of the calendar page to attempt to evolve or recreate themselves. Usually, those transitions, more commonly referred to by most of us as “resolutions” read more like a wish list – lose weight, stop smoking, drink less, exercise more – and usually, they last days, weeks, maybe even months; but rarely do they ever amount to a true transition.

Transition is more akin to metamorphosis than to an overnight quick fix dictated by a flip of a page. Therein lies the rub. A Monarch butterfly doesn’t just up and overnight go from caterpillar to butterfly. No, the caterpillar transforms over a long process into the butterfly. It is part of its lifecycle. It is slow and gradual and comes in due time once the forward momentum has begun. It amuses me that we humans believe with all our hubris that we can simply transform ourselves instantaneously into something different or better simply because we wish it into existence. Change takes work. It is a process, not a quick fix.

The irony though is that for our all our collective desire to be different and change ourselves or our circumstances, we concurrently fear and detest change itself. Change by its very definition means “different, modify or alter” yet we really don’t want any of these things. Time and again we dig our collective heels in and protest any attempt at change. We have all seen it. We like sameness. We crave consistency, routine, familiarity even when it is to our own detriment or to the detriment of others. Yet, there we are, juxtaposing our desire to change with our loathing of change.

Realize that change can be good, but it is a process and not a quick fix. Quick fixes often fail, and real change requires stamina, forward momentum and hard work. The flip of the calendar page can be the start, but it is only that, without the hard work and the time there can be no transition.

Blessings to you and yours for a happy and healthy 2021.

“Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?”

― Rumi