I have started and stopped, typed and backspaced this post several times to get to this sentence. I know that I need to write something to get it out of me. Words have always been able to help me see things better, fell better and writing helps me cope– it’s my therapy. So bear with me.
Let me start by saying, “life is not fair”. Big surprise. We all know this but sometimes something happens that just smacks you in the face and you have to say it out loud. This is one of those times. We learned some devastating news about a friend. Both Tom and I are beside ourselves. It is because we feel for the friend and the family. It is also because of the sheer hopelessness that we feel in not being able to do more than the mere paltry offer of help wherever and with whatever we can, which is so inconsequential in the scheme of things that lie ahead for them. But it is the only thing, besides our friendship, that we have to offer. It is the empathy of knowing that we live by the fickle hand of fate, and it could easily have been any one of us touched this way. Life has a way of grabbing your attention and focusing your priorities. What you think today is so damn important may not be so tomorrow.
As you walk through your life today and in the days that follows remember this
~~~~The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for. Be thankful.~~~~
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January 17, 2013 at 7:01 pm
Elsie
I’ve been gobsmacked a lot lately by what others are going through. The only way I get through is just to stay positive and be a positive light in their lives. If I get down about it, I wouldn’t be very good company for them. I feel I will be experiencing this more and more as life goes on.
January 17, 2013 at 7:38 pm
Patty Hebert
Remember friendship and love are the greatest gifts of all.
January 17, 2013 at 9:37 pm
Linda
As you offer support and friendship to your stricken friend, know that you and Tom also have friends prepared to offer the same support to you. Our arms are open and the tea kettle brewing
January 17, 2013 at 10:49 pm
tammyheff
January 17, 2013 at 9:44 pm
Maria
You’re right, of course. As you know, I’m going through a rough time in my life, too. But I suspect it isn’t anywhere near as bad as what your friend is dealing with — or so many other people who have it worse than I do. We have to put it all in perspective. I know that.
Friendship and moral support are not only the best you can offer your friend, but they’ll likely be appreciated far more than you think.
Sending good thoughts and energy your way — for you and your friend.
January 17, 2013 at 10:49 pm
tammyheff
You ladies are right, I know.